Love Never Dies!

The word "love" is becoming a buzzing word in the ears of modern people. It is a great game and fun. I could be wrong to say that someone is dead in the affairs of love and romance at old age. It is never true. I know she was already divorced from her ex-husband and lived a life of single for many years dreaming to have golden hands to tie the love knot at any time. That really did not happen for several years in her life. Indeed she was praying for that charming moments in her aging life. The age is never an obstacle to love affairs. As Bhutanese people are fond of saying that " Without an expectation the rain came from the sky". This did happen to her recently. I know she is by now with gray hair and down the line in terms of age and physical look. But the hunt for love and game is never died from her heart and dreaming high to have Utopian love affairs as her final destination.  

Recently she met with a divorced man who is much younger and did approach her to share her dreams to be with him for the rest of life. Vow! It was another big shower from the unexpected blue clear sky. How many hours she talks with her new boyfriend is another difficult job to declare here. But she is always on phone talk, line and Facebook with her new boyfriend as new life yet to begin and wants to explore further deeply and groom it correctly. I know she failed her love and marriage badly earlier but she is never fed up with such crazy dreams of Utopian love which is un-achievable and never reached perfection as we dreamed.  As Lord Buddha said "Love is Pain and emotional feelings too is suffering". She did not understand that love is pain and suffering indeed but make it fun and crazy dream which might backfire one day as happened earlier in her life. She indeed is very kind and understanding women but succumbs into such pain and agony of love affairs at such gray age. 

But I wished her very successful love affairs ahead with engagement ring on her finger from his boyfriend one day and live rest of life with showers of love and reflections of perfect life. We know many of us failed in the matter of perfect married life but manages to push ahead with adjustments from different angles. Hope she can adjust well hereafter and make this short life a joyous moment and say Bye with smiles on her face when her death bell rings. How much troubles and pain she underwent is immeasurable as single life without any one look after. I as poor and helpless person could not help her but just to say few kind words as consolation note to keep on fighting with life when her financial stability goes critically low. No one could have understood her status better than me as strong observer and friend. Hope she will have wonderful life ahead with her new boyfriend and enjoying the holiday in the beach areas. It was my silent wish and prayer that recited for her during my prayer sessions to have good husband in her life and live happy and successful life which finally did actualized with her and she is now making it happened fully. My simple prayer was replied and came true.

My heart bleeds when someone suffers in pain, tearful and loneliness. I have learned to live with difficult times and lonely life even during sickness and hardship with financial stress as student life. It was another battle that I won from all hard times at Bangkok. I know I am flying back to my homeland soon and breath the clean air of Thunder Dragon. I would like to dedicate this article to my only best friend and wish her long and happy life ahead! Life is short but death is certain. In this matter, we may not meet after my departure to Bhutan but my best wishes and prayers are always with you. Push the life ahead and learn to live alone instead of having wrong friend!

Mindu Wangdi

When he will start?

We are indeed very good facebook friend who used to chat for long hours on various topics encompassing different aspects of life. I know he is smart at his heart and mind with his writing spirits and he lives with such zeal at his heart forever. He reads many books and sharpens his writing skills and vocabulary volume. The way he expresses in the chat is sometimes beyond my capacity to grasp and digest it due to my poor brain capacity and as a poor reader even though I am a literature graduate from Sherubtse College, kanglung in the year December 2014. I always salute him for his constant writing and blogging tirelessly to his appease his audiences round the world.

During our chat we used to share our common interest on practicing Buddha Dharma to end our suffering from hellish six realms which constantly tortures us. Vow! It was such amazing thing to hear from my friend that he wants to start his Ngondro practice after he identified one root master available at his local village. It was my duty to give him moral support to push his mission ahead which is indeed not that easy job as we dreamed. I did my job by throwing lot of talks on the importance of having do to with preliminary practices before we step into the real meditation hunt for the enlightenment as ultimate goal which was taught by lord Buddha. He did promise me to kick off soon. Many months passed b; I began to follow up with his words and promise but he failed to kick off with his important mission to start the Ngondro practices till date. Life is short and death is certain but my friend still wants to hang on with suffering and pain. 

The drag from the five poisons really immersed him to wait and see when he should find proper date to kick off his preliminary practices that he wants to pursue ahead. How wonderful it was to discover that my friend shifted his faith and trust from earlier master and still hanging in the limbo state to finalize his faith to someone else. It was indeed like that my friend is one of the best football player who can choose to join the best clubs to earn huge sum of money. There are many master available nearby but the faith and trust that place upon is wavering and shaky. In Tantric Buddhism, faith and trust is the innermost substance that can lead to realization of our own mind into Buddha. But he failed to keep that spirit once he placed on his earlier master.  Now he said no one is able to meet his "billing point" or expectations as a local master. It shows that he is hunting for very famous and top master round the world to lead him ahead. But if we don't have faith and trust, it is of no use in having very famous and top brand master as our root teacher. Everything boils down to our "genuine faith and trust" as tantric practitioner. Seeing everything from the perspective of intelligent thinking and critical way is just waste of life. As we cannot reach a level of unteachable and beyond mental process. Teachable things does not help us to reach the way of Buddha-hood but only unteachable can. 

Indeed, it was such heart rending to discover from his latest chat that he shifted his faith and trust once he placed on and still ruminating to find one elsewhere. This another blow to his mission to find the ultimate goal with wavering and shaky faith and trust to master which is very dangerous mind set. With little hope I suggested him some few reputed masters to visit during our recent chat in the facebook but he may not reach his final decision to approach them. As he got critical mind and which is sometimes misleading him to wrong directions. Too much critical and judging is very dangerous and harmful to our life. Since we cannot build genuine faith and trust which is core components of Tantric practitioners. Throwing perspective judgments are another obstacles our real practices. Sometimes, we should be closing our mind and eyes to find wisdom in another person's mind even if he looks shabby and lousy master. 

Hoping so high while write this article to kill away the critical minds of modern people and wasting their lives in finding mistakes in other person whereby ones own mistakes are hidden completely and deluded further. Buddhism is to dig out ones own mistakes and clean off our defilement but not to criticize other person and cook unnecessary stories and blow away in the wind. Knowing oneself is the ultimate goal of Buddhism. Scientific discovery can reach up to testable or teachable but not the unteachable which is ultimate goal. Hope my friend will learn something from my writing and cement his faith and trust before he visit his new master elsewhere in the pursuit of enlightenment!

Mindu Wangdi 

The Re-Union of Gomdarpas !

In the olden days, our forefathers used to gather for the annual local festival conducted at Pirung Lhakhang which is located at top of the hills that facing the Naning Phug (Melong Brak). I as a small boy used to follow always with my beloved mother & late father to enjoy the joyous day at the temple with mask dances conducted by our villagers. Such event brings all villagers together with laughter in their face with their best costumes worn and packed lunch at their backs. The local wine (Ara or Sinchang)  is another precious liquid people will carry with them for the day. We all will be sinking with the wine  by the evening hours and some will never make their trip back home and spend their night nearby  bushes. Those golden days are gone for me after I was sent to school to better up my life. 

And today, I could never dream to reach my village to attend those festivals which is still practiced with few attendees and less charm. Such loss and gap could be applied to all my fellow Gomdarpas who are living in different parts of the country to earn their livelihoods as office goers and business men/women. And this loss too is felt by the fellow people back in the village as the, educated  lots, young and energetic Gomdarpas have already migrated to big cities to earn their lives. Some studies have shown that rural-urban migration is huge problem for Gomdar Gewog leaving behind many empty households and aged citizens to guard their fellow lands. It is the modern trend which our government could never find solutions to apply to the sickness namely rural-urban migration and will continue to do so. Therefore, I am also one of the migrants from Gomdar, Khoyar trying best to earn my life at Thimphu city. We, educated Gomdarpas, are scattered by the forces of our own Karma which is unavoidable and non-stoppable by individuals. 

Nothing is going to remain as mystery forever, on the whereabouts of Gomdarpa brothers, sister, uncle, aunt,  nephews and niece's stay and jobs they do. With the help of modern gadgets supported by 3G network services throughout Bhutan. Even though, I am living in 8th largest metropolitan city in Bangkok doing my master degree in Leadership & Human Resource Management. One of my Gomdarpa facebook friends sent me a friend request to join the Gomdarpa United in the Wechat which I did accept with happy face. How wonderful it was to hear their voices and photos posted in the wechat. The most interesting thing happened in the group was administrative set up which was headed by Gomdarpa United's Gup, Mangmi, Tshogpa, Chipon appointed by the majority that completes the shadow Gomdar Gewog administration formed by the civil servants, corporate workers and private business men/women. No sooner did I join the group, the majority of Gomdarpas appointed me as the Gewog Administrative Officer of the group which I accepted with gratitude and happiness. 

In this group, any new joiners should introduce themselves to make clear of their family background, village name and current job. Nevertheless, the group's thumb rule is that we cannot address by positions that we hold in the current job but we should address our fellow people by relations that we are bounded back in the village. For instances, our Mangmi is by relation, (Ri in sharchop)  I should address him as my son and Chupon as my nephew. Vow! It was another difficult time for me to fix the relationship bonded from our forefathers family to the new comers. By now, I got my son, daughter, niece and nephew and list goes on when I address them in the Wechat.

It was another forum for Gomdarpas to entertain with our melodies they sung. It was interesting to learn that many of them are good singers and orators with their seasoned talks. We share our happiness and sadness in this forum to release out like gusting fountain. We all update our status in the group and plan for the games and sport events for the weekends. This is another shadow village of Gomdar consisting of more than forty people. 

But sad to notice, some participants are dormant and never want to open their hearts, signaling their privacy is bridged or quit the group permanently leaving us sad. Nevertheless, the Gomdarpa United is going to stand forever with highly educated people and hoping to see many new comers peeping in with open hearts and minds to share their love, melodies, compassion, happiness and sadness in the forum. We all sing the happy songs together and sad songs too. I would like to wish all the best of luck and everlasting happiness to the Gomdarpa United family members. May you all live long life and prosperous family in times to come.

Mindu Wangdi